My niece told me that if she married O from her class she wouldn’t have to change her surname as it is the same as hers! I laughed and said “that would be handy, but you know not everyone changes their surname, some people choose to keep their current surname; and for that matter some people chose not to get married but to just live together, that’s what I’d do”. She paused thoughtfully and I waited for the moral judgement I thought was coming. Instead she responded with “But first you’ve got to find someone to love”. “Yes that’s right” I laughed “first I need to find someone to love”. She looked at me earnestly and replied “couldn’t you knock on every door of every house in the world to find the person your meant to love”!